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Am I Being Abused?

Abuse comes in many forms and is not just physical or sexual assault

Abuse is about power and control, one persons desire to control another person

Abusers will use any available tools to achieve this control

The abuse itself can be physical, psychological, emotional, spiritual, verbal, sexual and/or financial

It can occur during the relationship, during the break up of the relationship or after the relationship has ended.

It is important to remember that not all abuse constitutes a criminal act

Abusive partners try to control every aspect of their partner’s life:

  • What they are allowed to wear
  • Who they are allowed to talk to
  • What they are allowed to purchase
  • Whether or not they are allowed to work
  • The amount of contact with family and friends
  • Parenting of the children

Do you feel like any or all of these aspects of your life are being controlled by your intimate partner?

If so, how is your partner able to control your behaviour?

Is it through fear?

Are you being threatened directly or are there threats directed at loved ones including your children or pets?

Are you made to feel inadequate or incapable of handling tasks on your own?

Do you have access to the family finances or does your partner use finances to control your lifestyle?

Are you able to socialize freely with family and friends?

Do you suffer from constant harassment from your partner?

Are you free to practice in your spiritual beliefs or are your beliefs ridiculed?

Does your partner follow you or frequently check the odometer on your vehicle?

Are your phone calls monitored?

Are you being physically assaulted in any way?

  • Pushed or shoved
  • Slapped or punched
  • Choked or held against your will
  • Objects thrown at you
  • Or even through acts or gestures
Are you forced to have sex against your will?

Are you forced to participate in degrading sexual activity?

Has your partner ever threatened to commit suicide if you do not comply with certain requests or demands?

Answering yes to any number of these questions may indicate that you are in an abusive relationship.